Wednesday, March 14, 2007

Separation Amenity

Those of you familiar with the Casselbloggy adventures know that I don't like to brag. Nope. It's unbecoming. Undignified. I'm comfortable and secure enough with myself that I don't need affirmation from others. Don't get me wrong. It's nice. I'll take it. But I don't seek it.

However, sometimes I just get it right. And sticking out the chest and thumping it a bit is good for the heart. Well, it should be, anyway.

About a month ago, I stated my belief that separate bedrooms could be the wave of the future for those coveting marital bliss and domestic tranquility. And it seemed like some people were at least open to the possibility, but I still detected a bit of skepticism among the FRT readership.

Well, New York Bureau Chief Mis Hooz just sent over a hot, fresh plate of affirmation, baby. An article in Sunday's New York Times (known in some circles as "the paper of record," while featuring "all the news that's fit to print") confirmed this burgeoning societal trend. Couples are increasingly designing homes with separate bedrooms.

"In a survey in February by the National Association of Home Builders, builders and architects predicted that more than 60 percent of custom houses would have dual master bedrooms by 2015, according to Gopal Ahluwalia, staff vice president of research at the builders association. Some builders say more than a quarter of their new projects already do."

And which side is requesting these separate sleeping quarters? Hello, ladies! The article features an older woman who had become so fed up with her husband's snoring and their failure to reach a compromise over whether or not the covers should be tucked in that she put up a wall in their condominium to create two bedrooms.

(She also once cut all of their linens in half so that she could tuck her sheets under while he could kick them out, and was quoted as saying she would've killed her husband if they hadn't made separate bedrooms, so it's possible she's a little bit crazy.)

The movement could even be pushed further, according to a University of Michigan sociologist quoted in the article, who said she has talked to people who "fantasize about living in the same apartment building as their husband - but in a separate apartment. That could be next."

Okay, maybe that's taking this thing a little too far. For one thing, it's better to own than to rent, right? But if a couple can't share the same living quarters, maybe it's time to reassess the whole marriage idea. "Honey, I love you, but I need you on the other side of a building"?

Or maybe that's what marriage does to you. After 20-30 years under the same roof with someone, maybe some people just need some space. I could see that. As long as it was an apartment building full of hot, young singles...